
Every year about this time there is a conversation which takes place between loved ones everywhere. The "What do want for Valentines Day, Honey" conversation. Yes, the Mr. and I had that very one at lunch today.
After I sat back and attempted to take an outsiders approach to our conversation, I realized just how different men and women really are. To his question I answered, something sentimental. His response? Awe man! I don't do sentimental. I do logical. Just give me an idea of what to get. Of course I had the response most women have...
"If I tell you, then it won't mean what I want it to mean. All it means is I gave you a shopping list and you chose something to run out to buy as quickly as possible to get it out of the way." THAT'S DEFINITELY NOT SENTIMENTAL.
OK men, here is your insight to the woman's sentimental rationale. If you want to be your wife's romeo this valentines listen up, because information so sensitive bear not be repeated.
What women want the cliff notes version... We want to be loved above and beyond the limits of time. Most importantly we want to be shown. You can say I love you all of the time, but if the motions don't support the end mean, the words lose their meaning.
Here are few ways to say I love you in a big way for every price range.Option 1: (-$) Write her a letter. Tell her why you love her. The way her perfume smells, her laugh, the mother she is, or the way she cooks. It's very important for women to hear not only that you love her, but why you love her. This is the most inexpensive gift, but probably the most important one on the list.
Option 2: ($) Bring back the days of the mixed tape! A product of the 80's the mixed tape has always been a fool proof way to say how you feel without really having to say anything. Of course I would recommend using a CD, as she maybe hard pressed to find a tape deck lying around. Customize the CD with a custom printed case complete with the selected song list and if space allows say why you chose each track.
Option 3: ($$) Instead of going out to the movies, give her a movie night in. Go to your local store and load up a basket of Movie Butter Popcorn, Whoppers, Jujubes, anything chocolate, and lastly DVDS. Let me clarify here guys, LOVE STORIES. There is nothing more romantic than a shoot em up cowboy scifi bloody gorefest *insert sarcasm here*. Sorry. If you would like a sure fire hit, an almost guaranteed to get you some action movie, may I suggest "The Notebook". Period.
Option 4: ($$$) Plan a day road trip. Find somewhere a few hours away. Natchez, Memphis, Birmingham, or New Orleans to name a few and be sure to plan out the days events. Pack the car with all of her favorite snack foods (Notice a trend here? We are easy to please.) Have a nice lunch at a local hot spot, see the sites, carry your camera to catalog the trip. The point of being in the car is to be together, talk to her. It doesn't matter what about, old times, how you met, the kids, tell jokes, Oh and don't forget your mixed CD!
Option 5: ($$$$) Surprise her with a long weekend away. Get a hotel room at The Fairmont New Orleans. Schedule a couples massage, eat a Jazz Brunch at the Court of Two Sisters and take in a night of Blues at Preservation Hall. OR Buy a four day cruise to Mexico. Dress up for the Captain's Dinner and have your picture taken together, Lay on deck all day doing absolutely nothing, shop for local art in the market at Cozumel. Most importantly remember why you chose to be together, and enjoy one another again.
Option 6: ($ to $$$$$) This one is for you guys who would rather take the easy way out and go pick something up. To really make us forget the fact you just bought us "something" it's got to have meaning. If you send flowers they will be appreciated, although not seen as special. If you want flowers to be special send them on July 23rd (you get it). Stuffed animals will be thrown away, candy is OK but falls in line with the flowers. To REALLY say I love you with a bought gift buy it for a reason. A few ideas include a dinner you ate on your first date, a piece of jewelry that she has always looked at because she deserves it, a coat to keep her warm while you are not around to do the task, a rose bush to plant because your love grows and never dies, a new picture of your children because it's the best thing you have ever done together.
There are no limits to what you give your wife for Valentines Day or any other day for that matter. The best gifts are given out of love, not necessity. If you follow your heart and really put thought into the gift you give, you can never go wrong. The important thing is you show her "why" the gift was given in the first place.